{"id":2104,"date":"2024-03-26T08:09:00","date_gmt":"2024-03-26T12:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.northwayinsights.com\/?p=2104"},"modified":"2024-03-22T15:23:07","modified_gmt":"2024-03-22T19:23:07","slug":"quality-time-or-quantity-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.northwayinsights.com\/2024\/03\/quality-time-or-quantity-time\/","title":{"rendered":"Quality Time or Quantity Time?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" hcb-fetch-image-from=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/OpCreNanS0o\" title=\"Quality Time or Quantity Time? 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I\u2019ve heard other experts make just the opposite claim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is one of those truths that doesn\u2019t matter whether we\u2019re talking about professional work relationships or personal family relationships. Building a strong connection demands both quantity and quality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can\u2019t make up for keeping your nose in your phone simply by spending more time within the same four walls with another person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By the same token, you can\u2019t make up for recurring weeks or months of absence simply by concentrating your attention on someone for a whole day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So what\u2019s a good rule of thumb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Details will certainly depend on what kind of relationships it is, and specifics of your situation. But here\u2019s a structure that seems to show up in several different places:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1\ufe0f\u20e3 Concentrated, dedicated time every week<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2\ufe0f\u20e3 Frequent, casual moments in between<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At work, that will mean a weekly one-on-one with your key peers or with anyone you directly manage, along with engaging in pleasantries before and after meetings, in the hallway, or in the group messaging app for remote workers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>At home, that may look like a weekly date night. This doesn\u2019t have to be something you spend money on. My wife and I are currently going through an \u201cABC Dates\u201d challenge, where each date night (or day) starts with a different letter of the alphabet. 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