{"id":2073,"date":"2024-03-21T08:09:00","date_gmt":"2024-03-21T12:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.northwayinsights.com\/?p=2073"},"modified":"2024-02-29T16:39:59","modified_gmt":"2024-02-29T21:39:59","slug":"when-personal-tragedy-hits-a-leader","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.northwayinsights.com\/2024\/03\/when-personal-tragedy-hits-a-leader\/","title":{"rendered":"When Personal Tragedy Hits a Leader"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" hcb-fetch-image-from=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/O1LfOeUPDv4\" title=\"When Personal Tragedy Hits A Leader (How do you manage your team when it&#039;s hard to manage yourself?)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/O1LfOeUPDv4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>None of us is immune to personal tragedy. At some point on our journey, any one of us may face a serious health diagnosis, the death of a loved one, the severing of a close relationship, a natural disaster, an ethical injustice, or personal legal or financial issues that put everything you value at risk.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When that happens, the additional weight of daily leadership responsibilities can feel unbearable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you find yourself in a dark time like that right now, first, I\u2019m sorry you\u2019re facing this. And let me assure you that this situation does not have to spell the end of your value, your personal growth, or your hope for the future. It\u2019s just as likely that this will be the event you look back on later in life as the catalyst for helping you become the person you\u2019re proud to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But what can you do in this moment while you\u2019re still in the middle of it, reeling from the impact?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1\ufe0f\u20e3 Don\u2019t pretend everything is fine. It\u2019s not. And it\u2019s important to acknowledge that. Acting as if everything is OK when you\u2019re really suffering from a tragedy just makes it more likely for you to make major mistakes that you\u2019ll regret.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2\ufe0f\u20e3 Get help. Even if you already work with a leadership or executive coach like me or one of my colleagues, dealing with a tragedy often needs a specialized kind of help. Find a professional or spiritual helper you can trust to deal with the specific issue you\u2019re facing. See what resources may be available from your organization\u2019s Employee Assistance Program. Supplement the professional help with a network of friends and family who will support you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3\ufe0f\u20e3 Communicate carefully. Depending on what kind of psychological safety exists in different relationships, you may share details, or you may simply tell people something like, \u201cHey, I\u2019m not able to share much right now, but I thought you needed to know I\u2019m going through a lot. I may not live up to the standards you\u2019ve grown to expect from me, and I may let you down. I\u2019m getting the help I need, but I knew you\u2019d want to know that something\u2019s going on.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>4\ufe0f\u20e3 Delegate the responsibilities that are too much for you right now. This doesn\u2019t have to be to one of your direct reports. As you build your support network, see who may be willing to help shoulder some of your responsibilities. And don\u2019t be afraid to decide that \u2013 for a while \u2013 certain things you used to do simply don\u2019t need to be done.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>5\ufe0f\u20e3 Commit to finding the gift or opportunity that will eventually present itself from this tragedy. At first, that may feel impossible, so don\u2019t force it. The point here isn\u2019t to find that positive spin right now. But consider a commitment to yourself that when you\u2019ve had the time to process this event, you will eventually identify the gift or opportunity that this tragedy makes possible for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I don\u2019t wish this kind of personal turmoil on anyone. But when you face it, you have the opportunity to come through it not just intact, but possibly even improved.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>None of us is immune to personal tragedy. At some point on our journey, any one of us may face a serious health diagnosis, the death of a loved one, the severing of a close relationship, a natural disaster, an ethical injustice, or personal legal or financial issues that put everything you value at risk. 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