{"id":2069,"date":"2024-03-14T08:09:00","date_gmt":"2024-03-14T12:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.northwayinsights.com\/?p=2069"},"modified":"2024-03-15T15:40:28","modified_gmt":"2024-03-15T19:40:28","slug":"i-want-to-lead-but-not-like-my-boss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.northwayinsights.com\/2024\/03\/i-want-to-lead-but-not-like-my-boss\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;I want to lead, but not like my boss.&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" hcb-fetch-image-from=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/7fYxgKy2OLs\" title=\"I want to lead, but not like my boss (Having a bad boss can be a gift.)\" width=\"500\" height=\"281\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/7fYxgKy2OLs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Some lessons are just no fun to learn. Having a bad boss is one of those lessons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Through no fault of your own, you\u2019re overlooked, neglected, belittled, or maybe even set up for failure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Depending on your situation, escape may be the right option. If your physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual health is in danger, protecting yourself may be more important than educating yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But if you have the space to look for the gift or opportunity in your current situation, here are a few ways that having a bad boss can prepare you for a successful leadership career of your own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>1\ufe0f\u20e3 Maybe the most obvious thing is that you can learn what not to do. As you observe your boss\u2019s bad behavior, notice the direct tie between specific, observable behavior and the negative outcomes that hurt your boss or the company. Take a note of those so you\u2019ll be ready to see them in yourself or in other leaders who someday report to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>2\ufe0f\u20e3 For the qualities you identify as \u201cbad,\u201d see which of your personal values are being violated. For example, if your boss consistently shows up late to their own meetings, is this irritating your value of punctuality? of faithfulness? of respect? Sometimes knowing what bothers you is a key to learning what is important to you. And being able to articulate your personal values can help you make tough decisions in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>3\ufe0f\u20e3 Learn to thrive when you don\u2019t have support. If your boss isn\u2019t helping you grow, you\u2019ll be forced to develop your own skills of relationship building and problem solving. Start to build a positive network of allies \u2013 not to conquer or overthrow your boss, but to mentor you and help you become someone who helps the company succeed even without your boss\u2019s input.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>4\ufe0f\u20e3 This one is harder. Honestly evaluate whether you may have misjudged. Is it possible you simply don\u2019t understand your boss\u2019s behavior, and that they\u2019re actually trying to help? I hear many people complain, \u201cMy boss makes me do their work, but I don\u2019t get their pay.\u201d They don\u2019t realize that being asked to do some of your boss\u2019s work is part of the preparation and evaluation for a promotion. 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